I mean, okay.
If I already said something publicly, I expect it to be read publicly.
The block tool is because I’m tired of dealing with their bullshit, not because I’m afraid of them reading what I’ve posted.
Still nice to know though, I guess.
In this order:
Tell other adults you trust about the situation. Your wife. Her parents if possible. More than one other person.
Explain to her in very clear terms that you can’t have that kind of relationship. It’s not about what anybody feels, it’s about what is possible.
At the FIRST sign of any type of revenge seeking behavior, that’s when you consider the authorities and rely on backup from the adults you spoke to.
She very well might listen to you, process the rejection for what it is, and move on. Or she might flip out and cause you a mess. If she handles it well, she’s learned something and you’ve treated a growing human with respect. If she doesn’t, your ass is covered.
40 here. Pretty much what I was thinking.
The way you behave in public is visible by the public, kids. No matter how you feel about it. If you don’t want it read, don’t post it.