I’ll go first…after 10 years of speculating in the market (read: gambling in high risk assets) I realized I shouldn’t ever touch a brokerage account in my lifetime. A monkey would have made better choices than I did. Greed has altered the course of life many times over. I am at an age where I may recover from my actions over the decades, but it has taken its toll. I am frugal and have a good head on me, but having such impulsivity in financial instruments was not how I envisioned my adulthood. Its a bitter pill to swallow, since money is livelihood of my family, but I need to “invest” all I have into relationships, meaningful moments, and fulfilling hobbies.

  • keepcarrot [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
    13·
    7 hours ago

    I dissociate and fawn pretty much constantly in most social situations. I do not feel in control. What most people know me as is a bunch of trauma responses. I feel like I’m watching myself have conversations and making “decisions” from another room.

    It took me a long time to admit this to myself.

    • Hadriscus@lemm.ee
      3·
      4 hours ago

      Do you manage to better “stand your ground” now that you’re aware of the fawning ?

    • Lurkerino [comrade/them]@hexbear.net
      3·
      4 hours ago

      I have this too, I have some friends that I can be myself with and some other people that my trauma response just kicks in and I become non confrontational people pleaser. Im starting to notice it more and trying to not do it.

    • zippo@lemm.eeEnglish
      3·
      6 hours ago

      holy shit, u put it better than i could, this is exactly what i have been grappling with lately and i have no idea how to fix it

      • Hadriscus@lemm.ee
        2·
        4 hours ago

        If I understand correctly, fawning is people pleasing to an excess because you’re afraid of the potential response. I’ve had trouble saying “no” for a long ass time, and have been bending over backwards to accomodate other people, at my expense, completely disregarding my own comfort and preferences. I think that’s part of the same mechanic. I slowly realized other people mostly place their own needs first, and somehow find themselves legitimate when asking the other party to “meet them halfway”. So I’ve been trying to emulate this. Does this ring a bell to you ?