(Yes, I’m aware of these bait-y titles.)
Anyway, I’m 23 years old. I live in my house with my wife. We have many teens in the neighborhood, which is good for my sister-in-law but one of them took a particular liking to me.
The girl and I just casually started talking when I would go for walks, for example. She then started acting really weird, like giggly or flushed. She told me she was bi but preferred women. I’m a lesbian.
Eventually, she confessed that she had feelings for me, though she knew I couldn’t return them. She has also told her friend (19F) that we are dating, when I told her this was not the case and I was married.
I am married and do not like this fourteen-year-old girl. How do I be respectful about not returning her feelings even if she knows I’m married?
Right? That’s jailbait and a homewrecker.
I don’t think that’s fair, that’s a child. Children can get infatuated with people and they don’t have the experience or the frame of reference to measure the consequences.
She’s a teenager, teenagers who seek to ruin the lives of adults should rot in prison for life, they are not dumb, they know what they’re doing, especially if their way of doing so is abusing their victim status under the patriarchy to their own advantage.
Holy shit who hurt you
No one, it’s cuz I cut that shit off before it ever gets to that point. Sorry not sorry but it’s the system we live in. As an LGBTQ adult I never ever speak to children and any interactions would get reported to the police. Better safe than sorry.
The fuck they do. I had to go hunt down some tool grooming and using my kid at that age. A lack of confidence and want of external validation are powerful drivers to do stupid things that can have massive life changing impacts.
Prison will make them even worse. It’s a system designed to ruin people.
Yeah I’d wish for a better alternative but fundamentally any society needs some way to isolate wrongdoers to prevent them from doing wrong and it’s the only option we presently have.
Society has another mechanism to stop children from doing wrong. It’s called parents.
Clearly non-functioning in this case as the wrong has been started already
The child deserves more than one chance before their life is ruined.